How many times a day do we find ourselves confronted with things happening in our own lives, the lives of our loved ones, and even the lives of strangers, which are perfectly explained by Lennon’s quote: “Life is what happens to you while you’re making other plans.” It’s a simple yet universal truth that is too often swept aside by the constant and seemingly endless flow of our mind’s evaluations, judgments, fears, comparisons, what if’s, how come’s, why’s, why not’s, shoulds, should nots, I need to do this, I want to get that, and the list goes on and on… This is what our mind does best. How often do we even notice?
We all crave peace of mind. Some of us search for it by pursuing a perfect life. Others achieve a false peace of mind by turning away from life toward the numbness of addiction or the ease of distraction. But deep down we’re always left with a feeling that escape is not the answer, nor is it truly possible. Life will bring us ups and down no matter how hard we strive for perfect balance.
I confess that I crave peace of mind possibly more than anyone I’ve ever met, and have been seeking the secrets to peace of mind since I was a teen. It has been quite a journey, and I wish I could say that the journey is almost over, and I have it all figured out, but I certainly do not. All I am growing more and more certain of is the idea that life was never meant to be like we’ve been lead to believe – that if we do x, y, and z, we’ll live happily ever after. Everything I’ve learned thus far through experience and study has pointed to the reality that life is not meant to be easy, and we’re not always meant to feel happy either. That’s just not how we’re wired.
Fortunately, I have found though that peace of mind is very much within our grasp, and in fact resides within all of us. We just have to practice awareness and acceptance. Often much easier said than done I know but that’s all part of the process. We are also fortunate in that everything in life offers us an opportunity to practice – from success, to boredom, to conflict, to catastrophe. Everything that we encounter in life provides us with an opportunity to grow.